The social network approach

He sees her, he likes what he sees..he doesn't approach her, instead he invites her on Facebook, adds her on BBM (blackberry messenger), invites her on Mxit, follows her on Twitter and blows up her inbox with numerous messages.

Why do people approach the subjects of their interests on social networks?

From a males perspective, its been said that some men are extremely nervous when they want to approach a woman and have a great fear of rejection, so it seems the social network approach is the only beneficial alternative to the face to face approach.

Men also reckon that using social network makes things easier for when they actually meet in person and hang out, he is also more comfortable in her presence.

But men are not the only ones who use social networks to 'check out' potential dates.

Women tend to invite men on social networking sites, especially Facebook, to "check" whether the subject of their interest is 'safe', not a 'player' and whether or not he is trustworthy.

A lot of women and men likes building a 'profile' of the subject of interest  for themselves as a means of knowing what 'their letting themselves in for'.

We live in the 21st century and can look into various reasons why the social network approach exists and why it is on the increase, but one cannot be ignorant to the fact that the face to face approach can never be replaced.

Many women and men agree that there simply isn't anything to replace the feeling of going up to someone, telling them you like them no matter how nervous you are, the suspense of not knowing whether you will get their number or not.

Spending time in someones company can never be replaced by a Mxit chat session, seeing and hearing them laugh, seeing the expressions on their faces, smelling the scents of their skin.

There simply is nothing quite like it. So if you just face your fears of rejection and try to control your nervousness, walk up to them boldly and take a chance, who knows, you might have the privilege of the above mentioned irreplaceable moments, which you can cherish for as long as you want.

By Murilla Mary Titus.